[K-Drama] "My Wife's Having an Affair This Week": Perspective on Marriage and Cheating
My kind of k-dramas are usually the ones with light story line, often revolved in romantic comedy genres. Judging from the poster and the cast of this drama I just finished called 'My Wife's Having an Affair This Week', I assume that this will be my usual kind of dramas: romantic with a bit of comedy, but thankfully my verdict was wrong, because it's actually much deeper than a cliché love story or cringe-worthy kissing scenes (but don't worry, the little dose of comedy is still there).
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'My Wife's Having an Affair This Week' (literal title of 이번 주 아내가 바람을 핍니다) brings up taboo topic which is not usually discussed openly and widely. This drama depicts a story about Do Hyun-Woo (played by Lee Sun-Gyun), a producer whose marriage with Jung Soo-Yeon (played by Song Ji-Hyo) is on the edge after he finds out that his wife has an affair. Unfortunately, he is too embarrassed to ask his family/colleagues for advice, so he's going on a social media instead to ask anonymous people for their opinions regarding what he should do to save his marriage.
To make this more interesting, Do Hyun-Woo is surrounded by people who also have similar issue regarding commitment, marriage, and cheating. First is his co-worker, Kwon Bo-Young (played by BoA) who is a divorcee and not considering to remarried after her first failure until she meets Ahn Joon-Young (played by Lee Sang-Yeob) who is pretending to be married for 3 years because he is too ashamed by the fact that his wife left him 3 days after their honeymoon. Then there is Choi Yoon-Ki (played by Kim Hee-Won) who is a total womanizer and going around sleeping with tons of women behind his wife's back, Eun Ah-Ra (played by Ye Ji-Won), whom he definitely takes for granted.
After Do Hyun-Woo finds out about his wife's affair, he's becoming anxious, afraid, and confused about what he's going to do next. He opens up a thread on a forum and asking anonymous people for their point of views and asking for a guide. As might be expected, the responses are divided in 2 popular opinions: those who want him to try to make things work with his wife and those who want him to divorce her right away.
Lee Sun-Gyun definitely portrays the emotion precisely. In this phase, I was watching while thinking "Why don't you just calm your damn self and listen to your wife first instead of going crazy yelling here and there?!" but then I started to try to view this in his perspective, as I'm imagining what if it was me who was in his position. It must be really hard to accept the fact, to face the reality that there is a chance his marriage might be ruined because of this, and most importantly, the fact that the one he loves the most deceives him.
I'm not married. In fact, I'm a total noob in romantic relationship matters and have zero experience in this field. But I have my own views on cheating and affair. Thanks to this drama, I'm inspired to make a comparison between my own perspective vs drama perspective (based on what I perceive) regarding cheating, and marriage.
Second Chance
I believe that cheating can be a habit if you keep compromising with it, therefore I personally wouldn't bother to give a second chance to my s/o if he cheated on me, regardless of what his reason is. Being unfaithful simply means you are not committed enough to make you relationship works. Instead of cheating, if you really have something that bothers you, I think it's better to talk it out with your s/o and working together to find any possible solutions, especially when you're married. You are tied with law (and your vow) and divorce is not as easy as breaking up when you were still dating.
The Bad Cop
In this drama, the husband is seen reflected a lot after his wife explain the reason she cheated is basically because of her husband, who doesn't seem able to understand her struggle as a working mom and housewife, even though she's also feel sorry herself. For me, the one to blame for cheating is never the third person but the doer itself, be it the wife or the husband. Once you're unfaithful, you automatically become the bad cop because no intruder would step into your home if you're not opening the door. Remember that both of you have the same responsible to keep your home safe from the intruder.
Forgive vs Forget
After the husband declaring to the anonymous audience in the forum that he has decided to forgive his wife, the wife asked him the last, real question: can you really forget the fact that your wife was held by other man? There's a conflict here where he wants to start over, wants to try to give a second shot with his wife and continue to live together as if nothing happened, but his subconscious mind forbids him to do so, because the answer is you can't. You simply cannot forget the fact that your s/o had been held by other man than you, unless you hit your head to the rock and loss your memory.
Overall, I recommend everyone to watch this drama! This is not your typical romance k-drama, it has serious topic and comedy as well so it's still fun to watch (plus Lee Sun-Gyun, the korean actor with sexiest voice is starred in this drama!!)
In the end, faithfulness is definitely one of the must-have-traits you should find in your partner, because we're all deserve to be with someone who love us as much as we love them ❤ And if you have other thoughts on this drama, please let me know by leaving your comment below! :)
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In the end, faithfulness is definitely one of the must-have-traits you should find in your partner, because we're all deserve to be with someone who love us as much as we love them ❤ And if you have other thoughts on this drama, please let me know by leaving your comment below! :)
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4 comments
LOVEEEEE THIS!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteI couldn't agree more, nobody can EVER intrude a happy relationship, if your spouse cheats on you maybe instead of blaming them, try to reevaluate yourself and your relationship? and the part saying he has to forget the fact that other man slept with his wife really broke my heart because who on earth can deal with that?!
p.s :
1. PLEASE write more of this kind of post :3
2. you make me want to watch it now!
3. THANKYOU for being such a good sport by quoting my post <3
Thank you for reading cilzz! :) My pleasure to quote your amazing post here ❤
DeleteP.S: Please be my guest writer somedayyy!!!!!
Only if you'll be mine!😉
DeleteI do not like the (opening) happiness ending direction that the ML and FL may restart the husband/wife relationship again. The Writer tried to convince Viewers that the cheating wife did not love another man BUT there were so many scenes showing that the cheating wife felt in love with another man and at the end, she also admitted that she missed and was so happy when being with her lover for such a long period and did NOT think about breaking up the affair relationship if her husband did not find out.
ReplyDeleteSo, why this kind of the cheating wife’s feeling is considered as a ONE-TIME mistake !!!